tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15793244.post6602486185584094923..comments2023-05-10T05:55:31.372-07:00Comments on The Feminist Spectator: Jodie Foster Comes OutJill Dolanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09674110837402216325noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15793244.post-22241853427789413822010-02-11T23:24:56.678-08:002010-02-11T23:24:56.678-08:00i relate to your comments and analysis. we've ...i relate to your comments and analysis. we've all wanted her to step forward in some classy way because we were so proud to claim her, as both an admirable, notable performer and a woman who inspired both genders made us feel whole without compromising our sense of us.<br /><br />she excucdes a control, a command and a connection and attractiveness that speaks to the wholeness we all wish to share in. <br /><br />see, we want to say, we are strong, clear and kind and capable of small moments that are utterly intimate and meaningful. we are not the contorted stereotypes you imagine of us or some of us appear to be. we are whole and we are connected and we are loveable, staid and capable as life requires.<br /><br />those are my thoughts relating to your spoken thoughts which i also share. thank you. i need her to say it, too. i also tire of others wanting me to come out to confirm their own legitimacy. she must have bored with that long ago, too. we still say thanks, jodie.<br />not so confirming to learn of her ongoing affair during that same time with cindy mort. hey. no one is perfect. that's the second part.<br />that happens, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15793244.post-28471499557249980192007-12-18T14:56:00.000-08:002007-12-18T14:56:00.000-08:00Beautiful and thoughtful work,and so familiar to s...Beautiful and thoughtful work,and so familiar to so many of us. Yay for Jodie, and thanks to you for sharing with us!Greghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14337889899066280559noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15793244.post-57282886972464806702007-12-15T19:50:00.000-08:002007-12-15T19:50:00.000-08:00Devon, thanks so much for this, partly because I'm...Devon, thanks so much for this, partly because I'm heartened to read about your experience and know that I'M not the only one who shares it, and partly because I'm just glad you're willing to say that this is how you feel.<BR/><BR/>And I think you've got it exactly right--something about today's climate makes us feel guilty for still struggling with the twin demons of approval and shame. But shame is pernicious, and it haunts, and it's not over yet--not by a long shot.<BR/><BR/>I don't think you're at all "weak" for feeling this way. I think you're honest and sincere, and you're clearly fighting the good fight, since you're making performance that I'm sure is offering others of us the reflections for which we so still hunger.<BR/><BR/>Let me know where you're performing (you can write to me privately at jdolan@uts.cc.utexas.edu) if you can and if you'd like.<BR/><BR/>And thanks so much for your post. Keeping writing (and performing).<BR/><BR/>My best, JillJill Dolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09674110837402216325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15793244.post-91739792250750133722007-12-15T17:04:00.000-08:002007-12-15T17:04:00.000-08:00Thank you - as always - for putting words to your ...Thank you - as always - for putting words to your experience and, in that way, assisting my own quest to create a framework for thinking about my position in the world.<BR/><BR/>As a twenty-something lesbian, I sometimes feel like I must be the only queer on the planet who still feels fatigue and frisson when correcting assumptions of my heterosexuality. And I chastise myself for “being so weak" as to desire approving cultural mirrors. My brain says I have every right to feel strong and proud, and resents a heart that still cracks with doubt. So while the political and social climate of my youth was much more accepting than the generation before me, there is still a war inside me between approval and shame. <BR/><BR/>Which is perhaps why, in part, JF’s acknowledgment provides such a sensation of...euphoric release. And also why, as an artist, I am driven to create performance that offers similar moments of recognition; moments for any others out there who, like me, don’t see themselves reflected as often as they’d like.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com